Why Rich “Mother Fathers” Always Get Caught Acting Out: They Have More Dollars Than Sense

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[00:00:21] I try to avoid kind of the current affairs as much as possible.

[00:00:28] Not because I'm not interested.

[00:00:32] I'm partially interested, but I try not to talk about those events.

[00:00:38] I feel like a lot of those events are less distasteful.

[00:00:44] They're not something that's enriching.

[00:00:46] They're not something that's fulfilling.

[00:00:48] They're not something that puts you in a positive state of mind, in my personal opinion.

[00:00:52] So when I saw this whole business with Diddy, formerly known as Puff Daddy, formerly known as P. Diddy,

[00:01:00] and the freak offs and everything that was happening, it got me thinking that although it's not worth talking about the situation,

[00:01:06] because I think it shouldn't surprise people.

[00:01:09] I know some people like Faiza on Love, who was one of the people that was allegedly in some of these events,

[00:01:15] and he came out and said, I don't know when we got to the point of being nasty was a crime.

[00:01:20] Because there's baby oil and all sorts of stuff that was brought out that raised it to a level.

[00:01:26] I do think, in my opinion, that the government is going after him for the wrong thing.

[00:01:35] So we know that he was physically abusive to Cassie.

[00:01:38] He's on tape.

[00:01:40] He admitted it.

[00:01:40] He apologized for it.

[00:01:41] So we know that.

[00:01:42] So there was domestic violence.

[00:01:44] The problem with domestic violence as a charge is that at the time, Cassie didn't file any charges.

[00:01:52] So if you don't file charges, then she settled.

[00:01:54] There was a settlement when you don't file charges.

[00:01:57] They they don't, they're not able to make an effective case if they don't have the victim's support.

[00:02:02] And a lot of victims back up.

[00:02:03] We see this happen with boxers all the time where the claimant backs off for whatever reason is a settlement or they just drop charges or something else happens.

[00:02:12] Why ever that happens.

[00:02:13] It doesn't matter why the point is that the government, I think just they want the victim to throw the book so that they can go after the person.

[00:02:22] Well, did he was put in cuffs and there were allegations made about certain roles of coercion.

[00:02:30] There's a bunch of accusers and everything else.

[00:02:34] So when phase on talks about well being nasty eyes at a crime, it's more than just being the nasty.

[00:02:39] It's a lot of these claims that were made from other women as part of these events.

[00:02:46] So it's not the event.

[00:02:47] It's claims made from these women that allegedly were part of these events outside of their control.

[00:02:54] Whether it was truly outside of their control or not is the defense argument.

[00:02:59] I would suspect did they go there willingly?

[00:03:02] Did they go there their own volition?

[00:03:04] Did they choose to do those things because it's a party, right?

[00:03:07] And a lot of times you have women who whether they're hired or they're dating or their friends or there's something that, you know, liquid courage, right?

[00:03:15] They get in and something happens and it gets out of control.

[00:03:20] We saw this time and again.

[00:03:22] So I saw some people talk about death of hip hop.

[00:03:26] Come on, really?

[00:03:27] He did.

[00:03:27] He was nowhere close to the top of hip hop.

[00:03:31] He had been on a steep decline.

[00:03:33] His other ventures because I think he had gotten to sports teams.

[00:03:37] He had a clothing line.

[00:03:38] He has a cologne line.

[00:03:40] He has way other is all these other ventures and that's really where his focus had been.

[00:03:45] It wasn't music.

[00:03:46] He has never been at the top of music, even when he was at his peak.

[00:03:50] He was never the top of music.

[00:03:52] So him going down does not kill hip hop anymore than R Kelly going down killed R and B.

[00:03:59] I mean, it's silly to even think such thing.

[00:04:02] So when I looked at everything that was happening and some of the stories.

[00:04:07] Cat Williams on his interview, he talked about, you know, you have to tell him no because of the.

[00:04:14] The theory or belief that there was an invite to certain parties.

[00:04:19] 50 cent talked about this as well and you should not go to the parties because you don't know what's going to happen.

[00:04:24] You don't know who's going to tape you and anything else.

[00:04:26] And then all sorts of people have gone to these parties, you know, from the Justin Bieber's to the Chloe Card Asians and Paris Hilton's and everybody in between.

[00:04:34] Even a reefer was at the parties at points.

[00:04:39] Yeah, DeMon Wilson, if you don't remember him, he's from San Francisco.

[00:04:42] He's this son.

[00:04:44] He did an interview.

[00:04:45] We said I didn't go to parties and that's why I got blacklisted from the industry because I didn't want to go to all that stuff.

[00:04:51] So all of this got me thinking.

[00:04:55] I was I was.

[00:04:58] I was intrigued because it keeps happening with multiple of these celebrities, this type of thing.

[00:05:03] It's just different variations of a thing.

[00:05:06] Right.

[00:05:06] All the way like if you think of, you know, Farrah faucet and, you know, Elvis even I'll get I'll give you Elvis multiple.

[00:05:15] They just Ray Charles, they all get into this where there's they're on the road.

[00:05:22] They get into some fame and then things start going the way they go.

[00:05:29] Well, there's all one is one constant to all of it.

[00:05:33] Money, fame, but more so money.

[00:05:36] I would argue it's money not really fame.

[00:05:38] Every time Cy, the singer PSY, the singer, Gangnam style, same thing.

[00:05:44] He ran into it.

[00:05:45] He fell into it.

[00:05:46] He came out of nowhere.

[00:05:50] Everywhere there's always money involved and then drugs get involved at points, depending on who it is, but money.

[00:05:58] MC Hammer, when he hit the peak, he was at the top and he was bank rolling money and then he was spending it like a drunk sailor.

[00:06:06] Mike Tyson, when he had a peak money and he spent like a drunk sailor, Evander Holyfield money spent like a drunk sailor.

[00:06:13] I was intrigued.

[00:06:15] I was fascinated just watching all these different celebrities and what they do with the money.

[00:06:20] And there's a pattern.

[00:06:22] And I think the pattern is all about boredom.

[00:06:25] When you get to a certain level, not just fame, but I'm talking just the wealth of it.

[00:06:30] When you get to a certain level of wealth, I think you get bored.

[00:06:34] I think you get truly bored where you have to find something to spend the money on and it's subconscious.

[00:06:41] I think some would say that they're hiding something, you know, they're suppressing something or they're compensating for something.

[00:06:49] Maybe, but I think it's simpler.

[00:06:51] I think they're just bored.

[00:06:53] They're trying to entertain themselves and they find their own ways to entertain themselves are Kelly and the allegations of a sex cult.

[00:07:02] Do I believe he had a sex cult?

[00:07:03] No.

[00:07:04] Do I believe he had a whole bunch of women doing a whole bunch of stuff for money?

[00:07:07] Absolutely.

[00:07:08] That's not a cult.

[00:07:09] Do I believe that did he was having freak offs?

[00:07:14] Multiple people in the industry have been talking about it for over a decade.

[00:07:17] It wasn't.

[00:07:18] It wasn't a secret.

[00:07:20] Do I think that people were forced to do things?

[00:07:23] No.

[00:07:23] Do I think that Cassie was abused?

[00:07:26] Yes.

[00:07:27] Do I think that there was so there's a line I'm drawing, right?

[00:07:31] The physical abuse.

[00:07:32] I'm talking you're hitting, right?

[00:07:34] I separate that from participation in a freak off session.

[00:07:39] And do I think that somebody was forced to rub baby oil on yourself and do who knows what with some other girl?

[00:07:48] No.

[00:07:48] Could it have happened?

[00:07:50] Sure.

[00:07:50] Do I believe it?

[00:07:51] No.

[00:07:51] I simply think that the parties were part of the fame and the wealth and it was, it became a thing.

[00:08:00] And for certain people, it was no longer acceptable after it went too far.

[00:08:05] So there could have been things that happened during the freak offs is my point that crossed the line for some of them, including Cassie.

[00:08:13] And that's where it starts to go wrong.

[00:08:15] So I'm not absorbing combs of anything that's happening.

[00:08:20] I'm saying that the government they're trying to fill the book getting for everything under the sun, including racketeering.

[00:08:25] I'm like, geez, come on.

[00:08:27] Maybe they get him on stuff.

[00:08:29] Maybe there's evidence I doubt it.

[00:08:30] I think he's got enough lawyers around him that they're going to get him off on a lot of these charges.

[00:08:38] But everybody should understand because I felt it to a lesser degree.

[00:08:43] And I didn't go anywhere near what this is doing because I don't have anywhere near the level of wealth, but money.

[00:08:49] I think a lot of these wealthy, truly wealthy people get bored.

[00:08:52] They get bored sitting in their homes with a lot of money.

[00:08:57] And a lot of them, if you notice, like Kim Porter, which is Sean Combs, I guess, his high school sweetheart or something, right?

[00:09:04] Marries her. She passed away, but he marries her and then they separate.

[00:09:09] A lot of these that are wealthy Tiger Woods, they're there with someone that's a childhood sweetheart or somebody they loved.

[00:09:16] And then they get to a certain level of wealth and success.

[00:09:19] And then it splits Tyson and Robin Givens. Same thing.

[00:09:25] Oh, Janice first wife. Same thing.

[00:09:28] I noticed that pattern and then they get to somebody else and that somebody else doesn't seem to really fit.

[00:09:35] But it's whatever.

[00:09:38] Sean Combs and Jennifer Lopez, right?

[00:09:41] So I look at it.

[00:09:42] I'm like, well, that to me, that strikes me as you got bored and you got tired of the situation and you decided to go somewhere else.

[00:09:50] You used your money to get there.

[00:09:53] Not that they were trying to take the money from you, but a lot of times certain people are drawn to wealth as an attraction.

[00:10:02] We heard stories from people around Nicole Brown Simpson that she was attracted partially to OJ's wealth.

[00:10:08] We knew Jennifer Lopez largely only hangs around with wealthy sorts of people.

[00:10:15] We know now that a lot of the male celebrities when they end up with somebody that's like way younger, like some supermodel looking somebody.

[00:10:27] Wealth is the line between when they didn't have that kind of person and when they did.

[00:10:31] And they could have been dating somebody else that wasn't so attractive, but then they go to somebody who's more attractive as their wealth increases.

[00:10:39] All of which to say the boredom aspect just being tired, you know, you're you're sick and tired of being sick and tired.

[00:10:46] You want something new. You want something fresh.

[00:10:49] I have never done because I've never been that rich, but I've never done anywhere close to what those people, any of them that I mentioned, could, would or should do.

[00:11:00] I will tell you, though.

[00:11:02] I did get a level of wealth and there are times I felt in my mind it's like, okay, I want something different.

[00:11:11] I want something new, something fresh.

[00:11:12] I'm bored generally bored.

[00:11:14] I don't want for right?

[00:11:17] It's there's nothing that I specifically desire.

[00:11:19] I can look around.

[00:11:21] I bought a house.

[00:11:22] Okay, so cool.

[00:11:24] I've been most stuff.

[00:11:25] It's a third paid off, which is good.

[00:11:28] I make decent good money on what I do.

[00:11:31] I'm actually looking for another client just just to get even more.

[00:11:36] I'm looking around.

[00:11:37] I've got this room that I'm fixing up that's hopefully going to be the office.

[00:11:41] I'm talking to you guys on a podcast.

[00:11:44] I've got storage plenty now.

[00:11:46] I've got actually too much storage.

[00:11:48] I've got my TV that's in the great room and I'm fixing up the great room.

[00:11:51] It's looking decently nice.

[00:11:54] Things are good.

[00:11:54] I've got two cars both paid for.

[00:11:56] I've got no debt other than the home loan.

[00:11:59] I look and I'm like, why then would I want for anything?

[00:12:04] Why then would I not be satisfied with what I have?

[00:12:07] And it's not for lack of satisfaction.

[00:12:09] That's not it.

[00:12:11] It's just a feeling you get when you feel that you want more.

[00:12:17] Not that you need it.

[00:12:19] Just that you want it just because there's nothing tangible that I can point to.

[00:12:26] That I don't already have that I can say, OK, I probably should have that now.

[00:12:31] Like I can I could make the case for buying a new car.

[00:12:34] The only reason I haven't is because all the new cars are garbage.

[00:12:37] They're all terrible.

[00:12:38] They're all SUVs.

[00:12:39] I don't want an SUV.

[00:12:41] They're all EVs or SUVs.

[00:12:42] I don't want either one or if it's a sedan.

[00:12:44] It's a tiny car and I want that.

[00:12:46] I want a large sedan.

[00:12:49] And then when I do find sedans like say the Accord, it doesn't have a power outlet, which I want.

[00:12:55] My car has that for whatever reason.

[00:12:57] We decided not to standardize on that.

[00:12:59] We only do the cigarette lighter adapters, which makes no sense because we remove the cigarette trays out of cars.

[00:13:05] All of which to say there are things where it's like, well, I could do, but I don't want that.

[00:13:12] Then I look out to things like, well, be nice if I had just a small condo somewhere else in where I'm at in state somewhere else or even a different state.

[00:13:23] It doesn't matter.

[00:13:23] Just a small condo, you know, paid off.

[00:13:26] That's off there.

[00:13:27] Maybe I rented out when I'm not using it, you know, Airbnb or something.

[00:13:30] I don't know just because not because I need it.

[00:13:34] Not because I need the extra income, but just because wealth, right?

[00:13:39] It's more of your net worth.

[00:13:40] It's more of the wealth I consider buying land.

[00:13:43] I actually have enough money in the bank account right now to buy a plot of land.

[00:13:47] I consider doing it.

[00:13:49] I actually am going to do it at some point.

[00:13:51] But what held me back on that one was I did more research.

[00:13:57] So I'm describing how I'm, how I'm calming myself down from these random urges of buying random stuff.

[00:14:04] I did more research on the land and one thing you have to always watch out for with the land is whether or not the land had something like some sort of bio hazard situation that you didn't know about where it's not.

[00:14:18] You can't build on it.

[00:14:19] Legally can't build on it.

[00:14:20] The other thing to watch out for is if it's in an area that has neighbors, they can actually lobby to prevent you from building on the land.

[00:14:28] Now I don't mind that too much, but it's very tribal and I don't want to deal with it.

[00:14:33] It was really just to have it as a another asset again net worth.

[00:14:38] But I backed off of it because I'm forcing myself with everything that I would consider buying with the money I have.

[00:14:45] I'm forcing myself to purposely look for the cons.

[00:14:48] What are the negatives of the decision to buy something to make sure that if I'm going to buy it, it's a smart decision and not just formal, not just a random something, not just spending money for the sake of spending it.

[00:15:00] That is hard.

[00:15:02] I think a lot of celebrities then or super wealthy folks, they don't have they have people around them accountants and whatnot who likely are telling them about bad decisions buying stuff.

[00:15:14] But they go forward because they feel they're arrogant.

[00:15:16] They can just do it and I understand.

[00:15:18] I know that feeling as well, which is why I had to force myself to stop breathe and think it through.

[00:15:24] First, do I need it?

[00:15:26] If I do need it, justify why if I don't need it, understand the cell me talk myself off the ledge as the term.

[00:15:34] Do everything in my power to make sure I'm not missing something that would render it a bad decision because I'm telling you folks.

[00:15:43] When you get to a certain level of money and the more of it that you get, it's easier to fall into the trap of just random spending.

[00:15:52] Whether good, bad or indifferent, but it's just random spending.

[00:15:55] You're just you're bored and you're looking for something to spend money on.

[00:16:00] You think, well, no, I find a million dollars I put in the bank.

[00:16:03] It sounds good, but chances are no, it doesn't work that way.

[00:16:08] Sometimes the spend is for good reasons, right?

[00:16:12] I found out that, you know, the garage that I have, I'm going to need to rebuild it because it's leaning.

[00:16:18] I knew that when I bought it.

[00:16:21] Okay, I just figured at some point I'll replace it because it's going to increase the value of the home anyway, because I put a nicer one in no matter what.

[00:16:28] It's still an investment for when I do sell the property.

[00:16:32] The value of it is going to be significantly higher than when I bought it, which will recoup what I'm putting in now.

[00:16:38] But I knew that's going to cut into other things that I might want to buy.

[00:16:43] So now the justification for not buying these random garbage things that I'm considering buying is to actually put it towards investments that are of value and then I'll recoup it later.

[00:16:54] All of which to say a lot of the people that are super wealthy struggle with tempering their own enthusiasm when they get the money because they come from a situation where they never had it.

[00:17:07] Many of them weren't born in the wealth.

[00:17:09] Floyd Mayweather, he wasn't born in a wealth.

[00:17:11] His family was drugs, you know, alcoholism.

[00:17:15] That was what he grew up in.

[00:17:17] He grew up essentially impoverished effectively and he worked his way up from that, from that base by Tyson.

[00:17:24] Same thing.

[00:17:24] He worked himself off the streets and got to that level.

[00:17:27] Deontay Wilder, same thing.

[00:17:30] Everybody has a story.

[00:17:32] Some come from true poverty.

[00:17:34] I'm talking true poverty, right?

[00:17:36] Not just we didn't have everything, but we had enough.

[00:17:39] We had a house.

[00:17:40] We had cars.

[00:17:41] We had pets.

[00:17:42] That's that's not poverty.

[00:17:44] Poverty is poverty.

[00:17:45] I'm saying there are people that came from true poverty and people that came from your regular middle of the road middle class family.

[00:17:53] And they worked their way up self made and then there's some where they were indeed born with a silver spoon in their mouth.

[00:17:59] The ones that work their way up.

[00:18:01] It doesn't surprise me that they would be tempted to just kind of go all in and start buying a bunch of stuff just because I believe it was.

[00:18:08] Was it Tony Braxton?

[00:18:10] I think it was Tony Braxton who said she had an obsession with buying a whole bunch of, you know, kitchenware.

[00:18:17] The weirdest thing, but that's just what it was.

[00:18:20] Don't get me started on freaking Michael Jackson and what he was spending a bunch of money on trains and drafts and goats and tigers and monkeys and everything else.

[00:18:28] Everybody's going to have whatever when they get that level of wealth.

[00:18:33] There's that temptation.

[00:18:35] It's a fire, you know the term baby fever, which I don't buy but apparently it's the thing.

[00:18:42] It's it's it's a fever.

[00:18:44] You get to this point where you just say, okay, it's time to start buying stuff for no real reason.

[00:18:50] Other than the can.

[00:18:52] And I'm not suggesting that it's that a person's malicious in their in their intent to do things like they're, you know, doing criminal behaviors or something.

[00:19:00] I'm suggesting that when you have something like the pandemic that just hits out of nowhere and the government interferes and causes harm to people.

[00:19:09] There are even celebrities, wealthy celebrities that complained about how they were treated during the pandemic.

[00:19:14] That means all the money in the world didn't do any good.

[00:19:18] So if all the money in the world doesn't do you any good during these trying times, why would you spend it during times when it's not trying?

[00:19:26] Because that means you're putting you're putting yourself at risk like MC Hammer.

[00:19:31] You put yourself at risk because he spent and spent and spent and spent my Tyson spent and spent and spent put himself in the situation Holyfield spent and spent and spent putting myself in the situation.

[00:19:41] Every single person, every single person of notoriety that's gotten to that level of wealth.

[00:19:46] I saw a story about Katy Perry.

[00:19:49] She got that situation.

[00:19:50] Britney Spears got that situation.

[00:19:51] TLC was in a situation.

[00:19:53] A lot of these are in the situation.

[00:19:54] They get to wear that money because they were spending a T boss from TLC.

[00:19:59] She was talking about buying a whole bunch of dresses for her kid and her kid isn't even two.

[00:20:03] She's like two or three years old.

[00:20:05] Okay.

[00:20:06] Your mom.

[00:20:07] I understand.

[00:20:08] But the point is that a lot of times that money becomes a temptation because of vice and the hardest thing to do is to train yourself, not to spend it.

[00:20:20] That training.

[00:20:22] It should start with your kid, but it often does not settle in until after you've lost once you hit rock bottom.

[00:20:30] Then you start trading yourself because now you've felt the other side.

[00:20:34] You felt what it's like to have nothing yourself, not just from a family upbringing.

[00:20:39] I'm talking yourself.

[00:20:40] You have you have you hit rock bottom.

[00:20:43] You have not you train yourself.

[00:20:46] Okay.

[00:20:46] Once I can get out of this hole, I'm going to do a better job.

[00:20:49] Some people still don't.

[00:20:51] But the majority do the majority look at that reflect and say, I need to do a better job.

[00:20:56] I cannot just keep spending like I was doing and the net result.

[00:20:59] I think my opinion from personal experience, you're happier with yourself, but then it becomes harder in a relationship.

[00:21:10] Why?

[00:21:11] Because you now are a lot more frugal, a lot more practical about what you do and it'll be harder because you encounter somebody who has not trained

[00:21:21] themselves and you don't understand their spending because you've been there.

[00:21:25] You don't understand how they don't know what you know.

[00:21:28] Now you run into the contention that causes you to reject relationships or not get into them in the first place.

[00:21:35] Next episode, I'm going to talk about something Monique, the comedian said about relationships.

[00:21:43] I thought it was intriguing and it ties to what I just said because I think the aha in my older years as they were is understanding.

[00:21:53] I had I had a point of making decent money was not great money.

[00:21:59] Decent money when I was dating.

[00:22:02] This is back when I was dating decent money then.

[00:22:05] Okay, I'm no longer making decent money.

[00:22:08] I stopped dating money comes back not decent, but it's pretty good.

[00:22:13] I had a point.

[00:22:16] I'm still making decent money, but I have to make some shifts.

[00:22:19] This is when I started moving all over creation, which I didn't want to do.

[00:22:24] I'm still not dating at this point.

[00:22:26] So then my money starts going up pandemic hits.

[00:22:30] So I go from half a million dollars ish per year to close to nothing because the pandemic was affecting my clients and as a result they were not able to pay me.

[00:22:44] So once I and I was almost homeless.

[00:22:48] There was a point I was mining cryptocurrency and I was making money off mining crypto and selling it.

[00:22:53] It was a point.

[00:22:55] All I could really have every day was a packet of it was mustard, mustard and some coffee from the local gas station with the little freebie deals.

[00:23:05] That's all I could have.

[00:23:07] It was rough.

[00:23:08] I was almost homeless.

[00:23:11] I told myself if I can get out of this slump.

[00:23:16] I'm going to figure it out where I'm not back here again.

[00:23:19] Now some of that's out of my control, but I said I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure if it is going to be harder for me to get it that bad.

[00:23:27] Let's put it that way.

[00:23:29] So I find my next client, which is the client I'm currently working with now and have done.

[00:23:35] I had a second client.

[00:23:37] They dropped out because they started acting stupid, but with the client I've been working with it's been challenging.

[00:23:44] But I said I'm going to make this work.

[00:23:47] I'm now I'm still not back up to the five hundred thousand per year, but I'm pretty darn close.

[00:23:53] Still not where I want to be.

[00:23:54] And that's why I decided another client to get back to where I was.

[00:23:58] But now everything's changed because I hit rock bottom and I understood.

[00:24:05] I'm not going to let that happen again.

[00:24:07] And if I have anything to say about it, I'm not going to let that happen again.

[00:24:10] I was saving way more than I needed to even though I was dual paying rent, which I didn't want to, but situations happened.

[00:24:18] I had planned to move could not move because the car dealer started playing stupid games.

[00:24:24] Couldn't get that figured out.

[00:24:25] My brother passed away suddenly.

[00:24:29] Couldn't get that figured out because I couldn't go to see him like I wanted to.

[00:24:33] Because I couldn't get the car situation sorted out car situation to get sorted out to a way later.

[00:24:37] It took months to get everything back in line with all the fiasco.

[00:24:42] Meanwhile, I'm still spending money because I'm spending on dual rent.

[00:24:46] I'm trying to get the car so I had to buy the one.

[00:24:48] I still have the green one that I don't really want had to buy that one.

[00:24:52] Then I have to buy the one I really need, which is the white one that I've got by this point.

[00:24:59] I'm saved though.

[00:25:00] So I'm spending dual rent, but I was saving off the side because I was committed.

[00:25:04] I cut discretionary did everything I could again knowing I'm going to.

[00:25:09] I need to get out of here by hook or crook rat shows up.

[00:25:13] It's impulse to get out, but I spent more money to move, but I had already saved.

[00:25:18] So I didn't worry about it cash in hand cash in the bank.

[00:25:21] I was set because I was saving and saving and saving and saving.

[00:25:25] When I got to the state, I'm in saving and saving and saving.

[00:25:29] Now I'm down to one rent, but I'm saving and I'm saving and I'm saving and I'm saving.

[00:25:34] Then when that lease was up or about to be up, okay, now I can buy a house and I can put 20% down.

[00:25:40] Because I didn't want to have excessive interest number one.

[00:25:45] Number two, I wanted I was committed to if I'm going to do this, which I didn't want to do,

[00:25:50] but I knew renting wasn't going to be an answer because renting is a scam.

[00:25:55] I need to be empowered to where I can own it and I need to work towards owning it completely paid off.

[00:26:02] And the only way to do that is to commit.

[00:26:05] I had to commit to this.

[00:26:06] I had to cut as much discretionary as possible.

[00:26:10] Meanwhile, all the all the nice things to have that I would normally have spent money on,

[00:26:16] I already own them.

[00:26:17] I got ahead of it.

[00:26:18] I bought them way back yonder back when money was free flowing.

[00:26:22] So I don't have to worry about it now.

[00:26:23] Now I can actually invest back in myself, but this is a hard lesson that I had to train myself after hitting rock bottom.

[00:26:31] And I think if you've not hit rock bottom, I'm talking true rock bottom.

[00:26:35] You don't know what it's like to truly recover.

[00:26:39] Thus, it's harder for you to imagine everything I'm describing and I hope it never happens to you.

[00:26:44] I hope it never happens to anybody because it's a bad time.

[00:26:46] I'm saying that this in my next episode, I'll talk about how that has a downstream impact on relationships of all kinds because you encounter people that have never had that white, blinding light hit them and it affects you and it affects your ability to settle in with that person.

[00:27:03] Hopefully that's going to be an entertaining story for you because I can speak from direct experience on how that can affect the person's ability to connect with somebody on any level possible relationships.